"Well this is worth thinking about that why are people leaving us or why are we throwing people out of our life"
Unfortunately, Sigmund Freud is not alive else he would have invented a new term 'Virtual Image Complex’, I guess the foundation of this social networking is our urge to present our best to the world. The question we need to ask ourselves ‘is this the Real ME’ or is it the image of someone who fits in the society quite well. Why are we afraid to accept that we are a 'MISFIT'
"While human beings are great deceivers of others; they are even more adept at self-deception” said by Sigmund Freud
We all hide behind some mask or the other while reading the book ‘a fine family’ the writer Gurcharan Das pointed out a 'Mask of spirituality’ which is troubling me ever since that what if I have such mask? Just because I am not Ambitious doesn’t necessarily mean I am spiritual. Living unattached life and developing genuine relations only is the core of spirituality according to me, I guess I am on this path.
Why do we make friends? As I like to shake my soul every day so I often ask myself such questions. I get answers like maybe I am afraid to be alone or embarrassed to go the movies alone so I dare myself to do all these things before coming to any conclusion! I do not mind roaming alone, in fact, it's better than to be with a company who is convenient. What is the point of having a physical form around you who is lost in his own world and doesn't understand a single thing you say! Most of us are suffering from some complex or the other
"People who feel superior like to hang with the people beneath them, on the other hand, people with inferiority complex constantly ask for the approval of others"
Genuine conversations happen only when real emotions can flow between people, sharing of heartfelt feelings is the actual reason we crave for another individual. The urge to tell someone about the unfair things that are happening to you or destructive thoughts that cloud your judgement is one of the many reasons I reach out to the people. I don't know your reason but I guess its wise to ask yourself such questions, it's the first step to know about the cunningness within you. Because I have seen people become close to the people around them, the later discard them when they move to the new place. This reminds me of the book 'Diary of a Sociopath', frequently changing friends is a sickness or may be a symptom that we are living in our delusions! If we continue to affect the people around us then eventually it will affect our emotional stability, it's easy to blame the world but its very difficult to see our own faults.
"The way we live defines the world around us"
"If u will consider what others might say before doing anything then you can never 'Live freely' & you will end up imposing so many Restrictions "
I speak against these Self-imposed restrictions because they cripple your decision-making skills and overpower your fear! Life will be chaos if we have to consider so many factors !!
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“We can't refute that most of our relationships are based on the ‘calculations’ we do to maintain the depth and intensity of that relationship”
People do not want to move out of their comfort zone so they start keeping the track of the things they DO, on the request of others. I am not saying its intentional, may its the Defence Mechanism of our mind or maybe its because of our tainted upbringing. The reason is different for every individual but we all must find our reasons for such behavior else we might lose all the people we care for !!
It's not fair to maintain relationships as per our 'OWN CONVENIENCE' or to go things SUITABLE to us. In my opinion, our connection with another Human is our crucial source to shake our thoughts because our selfishness may not be visible to us but others might point it out. Probably 'Selfless Relationships' will exist in utopia but if we can at least be Transparent about our thoughts and follow the high moral values of our soul we will create an aura where peaceful living is possible.
Life is dynamic and so is our connection with the universe and we need to be aware of every word that comes out our mouth and every step we take, in order to not to disturb the balance of people around us.
As always I try my level best to touch the soul of other spiritual people, even on marriages and other social gatherings I take the initiative to talk to people, because that’s the only way I know for my personal growth and emotional stability, people mostly tell me about their genuine feelings and dilemma’s and I vent my worries and questions to these strangers. I really want people to be blunt and speak the truth otherwise it is not meaningful.
“People underestimate the change I want within me, every day I question customs, social norms, career, marriage, physical needs, fake relations & many more” Spirituality according to me is the sensitivity of the soul, I want to break all the restrictions imposed on me by the society. I am tired of being told, “what to do & how to do it”… I want to free my soul from worries like (what others will think about me). Now I want to follow my heart to reach to as many people as possible, irrespective of gender, location and age difference. I guess its time for me to increase the pace of my transformation, as people pointed out that I will evolve just like the rest of us. I will continue to be like this, as long as I am not affecting another soul, because that will disturb the balance of the environment around me and I might sink in my cocoon again, no doubt solitude can help me in revealing the layers of jealousy, hatred that I have harboured over the years because of my limited understanding of all the experiences that occurred in my life. But to see the profoundness I need people to share their enlightenment.
“It's not easy to see the futility of the things when the entire world is doing it !!
I try not to be offended if the other person does not reciprocate the feeling, because not everyone during these events is interested in a serious talk about the “Meaning of Life” or “Why to Live”, but even if one person respond I feel the contentment and it encourages me to go on a larger scale because I am trying to create transparent world around where people can talk without any hesitation and obstacles in their mind. I do not want anybody to wear the mask of happiness even if they are sulking from Inside. I guess it feels better to express your Emotions at that particular moment rather than repressing it for a later release, probably later u might create a bubble which might burst any minute and which might do more harm.
When a family collaborate with the family of the same ‘class and religion’ for the benefit of both the families, what do we call it Merger or Marriage?
Almost every couple who had fallen in love are supposed to hear this from their parents at least once or many times during their lifetime depending on the psyche of their parents. They say “love is not enough, we have to live in society, love will fade away”. But whats the actual reason that they are so anti against love marriages
Probably its because that we are unable to accept the decisions taken by other, parents who created and nourished their kids, wish to choose the spouse for them. Because their experience of the world is greater.
On the other hand, youngsters want to make their own decisions because it's their life. They should be given the opportunity to learn from their own mistakes and grow mature. Maturity doesn’t come with age rather it comes with learning.
"Whenever two individuals decide to enter into a relationship, they must consider that they might have to go against their family for the conversion of this love into marriage"